ENQUIRY WITH PRESENCE
Menyoal dengan Kehadiran
1. Exercise: neutral presence.3-5 minutes
Focus on your breath. Follow your breath but do not alter it. Notice that your breath will go through some distinct physical changes. It does this because you are becoming present to the breath by simply observing it. It does not change because you are making it change – it does so because you are being conscious of the breath with a neutral presence.
Do something else where you do not watch the breath then do this practice one or two more times.
Latihan
Beri tumpuan kepada nafas, lihat tanpa mengubahnya. Ambil maklum bahawa nafas akan lalui beberapa fasa perubahan. Perubahan bukan sebab anda hadirkan diri terhadap nafas. Bukan anda yang membuat perubahan ini tetapi ia berlaku sebab anda hadir tanpa ada sebarang andaian terhadap apa-apa.
Questions:
- What physical changes take place with the breath?
- Are the changes generally the same each time you observe?
- How do you feel before and after the practice? (example, emotional sensations, energy level. Etc.)
Soalan
- Apa perubahan yang berlaku dengan nafas ?
- Adakah perubahan sama setiap kali anda memberikan perhatian?
- Apa yang anda rasa sebelum dan selepas latihan ? Dari segi emosi dan tenaga etc)
The Wounding Presence
The “original wound” is a sense of abandonment. This we acquired at birth. We all feel the sense of separation from the divine – however much of an illusion that is in truth – we feel it in actuality. Along the way we acquire other wounds. As an example, I remember the intense feelings of love towards my parents and how I would often share things with them things that were meaningful because they were beautiful. I found worms very beautiful but when I would go to pick them up my mother would warn me “Don’t pick up that dirty old thing.” What a shock! Was I to understand that, in my inner sense, the worm was beautiful or (from my mother’s tone) a “dirty old thing”. I loved the worm and felt the truth of my inner sense, but I loved my mother too. I had to make a choice and some part of my essential self became hidden while my attachment to my mother was being forged as part of some innate understanding that I needed her to survive. I then understood that worms were dirty even though I still felt they were somehow beautiful. This conflict developed a kind of split between my essential self and my self in the world – or reactive self. Based on many experiences such as these most of which were not nearly so conscious I have developed an entire reactive structure to my personality in which I am not able to experience my essential self to the fullest.
Kehadiran yang melukakan
Manusia mula merasa terluka semasa dilahirkan. Kita mengalami perpisahan dari ibu saat dilahirkan dan ini membawa rasa sakit. Semasa membesar, kita akan terus merasakan sakit pada ketika dan masa-masa tertentu . Sebagai contoh: mungkin kita suka ulat dan kita mengambil ulat itu tetapi ibu kita menjerit dan marah mengatakan ulat itu kotor dan jijik. Saat itu kita alami perasaan kecewa yang apa yang disangkan cantic sebenarnya jelek. Ada sisitu perasaan berbelah bagi untuk terus rasakan ulat itu cantic atau untuk terima perkataan ibu yang ia jelek . Ada distu sebuah konflik dan banyak lagi contoh perkara yang boleh berlaku dimana emosi dan perasaan akan dilukai oleh orang-orang dalam kehidupan kita. Dari semua pengalaman ini, jiwa kita dibentuk untuk rasa sepertiana kita rasa sekarang. Mungkin rendah diri , cepat terasa dan lain-lain dan perasaan dalaman yang luka ini akan sembunyikan jiwa sebenar kita yang sejahtera dan aman .
Jalil Beuchel online class on Presence
A Healing Presence
There are three aspects of the essential state of a healing presence
- Love – the force of being.
- Compassion – true understanding.
- Innocence – awareness without diminishing (awareness without judgement).
Being present in the sense of a “healing presence” is a very conscious way to enter into an essential state because a healing presence allows for the unfoldment of the essential condition which is in us seeking to be. Our essential states are there – we don’t have to make them. Trying hard to attain them takes us back to the cat in the bag analogy. Effort will not help. “You would be surprised how little you can do” to reach an essential state. Becoming present is not about doing – it is about allowing. However the small things that you can do – help a lot.
Jalil Beuchel on Presence
Kehadiran yang Menyembuhkan
Ada tiga aspek kehadiran yang menyembuhkan
1.Kasih saying
2.Belas kasihan
3. Suci dari andaian ( tidak menghukum)
Melahirkan dalam diri kita kehadiran yang menyembuhkan adalah satu cara untuk ketepikan keadaan reaktif kita yang telah menjadi kebiasaan dan personaliti kita. Ia membenarkan diri kita untuk alami semula keadaan suci yang tidak ternoda dengan segala luka-luka yang berlaku pada jiwa kita. Memang keadaan suci ini wujud dalam diri kita tanpa perlu kita wujudkan dari sumber luar. Lagi kita cuba untuk alaminya lagi ia tidak akan dapat dirasa. Sebab meujudkannya hanya perlu kepada kehadiran jiwa kita kepada keadaan asal diri kita.
Now we are ready to do this practice of enquiry with presence:
Enquiry with Presence
It involves these four aspects of:
- Awareness
- Expression
- Communication
- Fluidity and felt Shifts
In Enquiry, you lead the client in a breath exercise of focusing on the heart space and then ask the client to examine their internal awareness through this *space* while you listen and question in a state of a Healing Presence.
1.Instruct the client about: Awareness.
Awareness means knowledge of what is going on inside of you. This first means a rather exquisite personal knowledge of bodily sensations. This includes such areas that are in pain as when your shoulders are tight, your breathing constricted, or your stomach tenses.T hey are important reactions that provide a lot of insight. Being aware of emotions is also part of this internal awareness when we are present to our internal self.
Then become aware of the feelings as they course through your mind, ask questions, do you feel sad, anger, fear, excitement, love, happiness. 6 core emotions:SASHET sadness, anger, scare, happiness, excitement, and tenderness. Then note bodily sensations , aches and pains and thoughts than accompany the emotions
Kesedaran
Berikan pelanggan ilmu kehadiran kepada apa yang sedang berlaku didalam badanya sendiri. Kawasan yang sakit, tegang, rasa nafas sempit, lapang. Emosi yang di alami: Marah, Sedih, Teruja, Gembira, Kasih
Seterusnya tanya pelangan emosi yang berkait dengan setiap perasaan sakit yang dialami .
2. Next, instruct the client to express what they are feeling. Ask questions about feeling, eliciting deeper responses and getting more specifics about the nature of the emotions and the sensations. Ask cleint to describe using descriptive language. eg A client said, I have a sense of not belonging and you ask how does it feel , can you describe it and this client responded, I feel like I am a piece in a big jigsaw puzzle but the rest of the jigsaw puzzle is missing, I am the only piece and I do not know where the rest of the jigsaw it. No analysis is involved here, no need to ask the client where these feelings come from. Always ask client to look under the one the client expresses to see if there is another, more hidden, feeling. tell them: Maybe you’d like to yell with anger, but, beneath that, lies either scare, tenderness, or sadness. You see, there is a deep honesty involved in real feeling expression. There is no need to add more pain to the world by being phony. Let your body find its fundamental expressions and find an authentic way for them to come forth.
Seterusnya bimbing pelanggan untuk menyuarakan apa yang dia rasa. Tanya soalan tentang emosi, dapatkan respon yang mendalam dan telitikan secara halus tentang aspek emosi dan sensasi yang di alami . Suruh pelanggan guna perkataan yang boleh kenalpasti apa yang di alami. Ini dapat dilakukan dengan bertanya soalan tertentu. Tidak perlu menganalisa dan tidak perlu bertanya punca emosi berkenaan. Tanya untuk bertanya sama ada emosi itu ada lapisan dibawah lapisan yang di kenalpasti. Contohnya disebalik marah ada sedih dan sebagainya. Benarkan emosi yang di alami dapat ekspresi melalui mengalaminya dan menceritakan tentangnya tanpa Analisa atau sebarang tekanan.
3, Through communicating with you how they are feeling, the client is allowing the stuck energy of the pain and emotions to move and be fluid. Even if they did not tell you all of what they are experiencing, by being present to what they are feeling , the seemingly solid and rigid emotions and pain structures soften, like melting wax and become fluid and supple.
Dengan berkomunikasi tentang apa yang mereka alami, pelanggan membenarkan emosi yang sudah tersekat dan sangkut menjadi lebih mengalir dan berubah. Walaupun tidak diceritakan kesemuanya, emosi pelanggan akan menjadri lebih mudah di proses sebab menjadi lembut dan boleh berganjak, tidak lagi keras dan tepu.
4.It is then that we can detect a movement and a shift in these *structures* and this may be in the form of a sigh, belchin and breaking wind, tears, laughter. Any discernable change in the expression or energy of the client, sometimes reflected and echoed in yourself or, anybody else in the room, especially if the people are related to the client.
Anjakkan ini akan dapat dirasa dengan perubahan pada Kawasan yang sakit, pada perubahan pada Kawasan sakit serta emosi yang di alami.
Blocked emotions are also blocked energy
“Fluidity cannot be compromised. In order to keep cleansing your body, an outlet for feelings is necessary. You may recall that original traumas were specially installed in the personality because there was not a legitimate way to fully feel through the difficulty. Therefore, freedom in regard to feelings means letting feelings come forth.
Easy Guide to Emotions by Frank and Dixie Morris
Emosi tersangkut adalah energi tersekat
“Pengaliran emosi tidak boleh di sekat dan untuk pastikan aliran emosi perlu ada jalan keluar untuk ekspresi emosi. Trauma asal yang disebutkan pada awal tadi telah sebati dengan peribadi kita sebab tidak ada jalan keluar dan ekpresi untuk alami emosi yang terluka dengan sepenuhnya. Mungkin rasa nak menangis terhalang sebab ibu tidak bagi menangis dan sebagainya. Maka dalam tangani emosi yang mengalir, kita perlu biarkan emosi ini keluar dengan mengalaminya dan membiarkan ia mendapat ekspresi.”
Petikkan dari :
Easy Guide to Emotions by Frank and Dixie Morris
This means that after a session of doing Inquiry with Presence the client will find the emotions fluid and even less stable than before. This is expected and is an indication of healing. Encourage client to express themselves, and, give them practices which involve breath, movement and sound ( zikr) also , ask them to take part in activites that involve movement , breath and sound.
Ini bererti bahawa selepas sessi menyoal dengan kehadiran, pelanggan akan berhadapan dengan emosi yang lebih mengalir dan kurang stable ( tepu ) dari sebelumnya. Ini memang di jangka dan adalah indikasi bahawa penyembuhan sudah bermula . Pelanggan perlu ekpressi diri dan ada yang latihan yang boleh diberikan melibatkan pernafasan, pergerakkan dan zikir yang boleh percepatkan penyembuhan emosi.
These notes are part of a healing retreat to be held on 14-15 July 2018at Sinar Pelangi Homestay Sungai Merab
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Dato’Dr. Suriyakhatun Osman
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